I was pretty upset at a friend, which is an an anomaly for me unless I am hormonal, which I am not, so I have spent a little extra time this week processing my indignation. I feel like I was justified in being upset at a Christian friend who made a comment that demeaned and belittled an entire group of people in front of my kids. I first said something like, "You are joking right?" I had known this friend for years and couldn't imagine such a comment would come out of their mouth. Being a little more blunt than the average person, I quickly told my friend I was shocked to hear such a comment and that it was mean and inappropriate. Though I told them how I felt, I am having a tough time forgiving them.
I started thinking about how it seems that people have gotten more open with their demeaning racist, sexist, ageist, and xenophobic views. Maybe those attitudes have been there all along but I see them now. Maybe I tolerated them in the past but find them intolerable now. Maybe all of society including myself is so quick to protest and call out hypocrisy in others because we have tolerated it for so long in ourselves. We all have messed up, thought unkind and demeaning thoughts, and tolerated white lies and places of compromise.
People who don't even know the Bible, can be known to quote Jesus when he said, "Don't judge others or you will be judged'" from Matthew 7:1 They might feel that a friend's shoplifting, infidelity, alcoholism, sexist or racist comments are bad but they "Don't want to judge..." because they don't want to be judged.
"“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."
An interesting part of this story is that Nathan didn't hold on to his righteous judgement after David repented. I find I don't always want to give forgiveness and I want to hold on to my indignation and judgement. If I am holding on to forgiveness and continuing to judge someone after they have repented and asked forgiveness- I am holding myself above God.
Have you let your frustration over someone's hypocrisy keep you from receiving God forgiveness?